As the school year is about to being, a lot of parents want to know how to get kids to complete chores without having to nag, harass, threaten, beg or simply end up completing the chore themselves.
There is no simple solution for getting children to complete chores. Teaching responsibility to children requires patiences and perserverance. Such teaching is a process that takes a hefty amount of parenting time. However, this teaching does not have to make a parent want to pull their hair out as they remind a child to put their clothes in the laundry hamper for the seventh time that day. Learning chore responsibility can be a relatively simple (Note the word “relatively” used) process when parents approach the task with a plan. Many companies sell expensive chore charts that can be tiring and complicated to maintain.
Parents, step away from these. They are fun and useful for about a week.
They are anything but practical.
Instead, take an approach that asks of your child to “Give me FIVE!” and watch him/her soar as responsibility with chores is achieved.
Before making any sort of chore chart, first take these guidelines into consideration:
1. Make sure chores are age-appropriate. (kids as young as 3 years of age can have daily chores to tend to)
2. Make sure the child can complete chores independently (There is need for a child to do chores that require adult-assistance. This is not the place for such chores.)
3. Make sure chores can be completed in a timely manner.
4. Be consistent. (This is key to making a chore chart work.)
The “Give me FIVE!” method simply means outlining five chores/duties a child needs to complete in the morning and five chores/duties a child needs to complete in the evening. These chores migh include getting dressed, taking a shower, making a bed, unloading the dishwasher or helping a sibling. As long as the chores adhere to the guidelines above, they are fair game.
Make a similar chart for the evening:
The “Give me FIVE” system allows parents to simply ask if a child can “give me five” with the understanding that if they can, they have completed all five chores. Having only five chores and a hand to represent these chores, allows children to remember what is asked of them and to accomplish it quickly and efficiently. Younger kids enjoy being able to actually give parents a high five when the chores are finished (which is really all the reward that needs to be given for such chores). Older children will appreciate the freedom to get their jobs done without nagging (although they might roll their eyes over a hand print chore chart). Parents will be glad to pass off the responsibility of completing these tasks to their children.
This school year, make morning and evening chores a simple task to accomplish. Vow to stop nagging and give children the reigns of responsibility.